Honey, we need to talk...
There are five key factors to keep in mind when having a conversation. Disarming technique. We’re not trying to intimidate our partners. Create a safe space. Empathy. Listen to what the other person is saying. Genuine listening is not listening to respond, it’s listening to understand. Inquiry. Ask for clarification or elaboration if something isn’t clear. ex) “I would love to hear more about how you feel about...” “I feel” statements. We can’t read each other’s minds, we can’t feel each other’s emotions. Put feelings out there. Stroking (not the manipulative way). Compliment each other and say things that you love about each other, share a long embrace, etc. Doing this can help diminish those heavy feelings after a deep or stressful conversation. Come back together. Vulnerability can be a frightening concept to put into practice. If you are someone who struggles to put your mind, experiences, requests, etc. out there, you are not alone! I am one of those people! It can b